Monday, May 26, 2014

Complain Bragging

Some people complain-brag.
Definition: Complaining about something while underhandedly bragging about it at the same time.
I'm going to discuss how much I hate complain-braggers, some examples of complain-bragging, and how it's not always complain-bragging.

First things first. I hate complain-braggers because while they're trying to look innocent on the surface by complaining, they're really bragging about something under the surface and trying to get you to be jealous of them.
Some examples of complain-bragging.

  • "Ugh, my iPhone 5s is so slow." This person is bragging about having an iPhone 5s in the form of a complaint, so it's not as obvious and you can't tell them off for it.
  • "It's just so hard to put on weight, you know?" You look like a supermodel and you know it. Stahp.
  • "My new apartment is so annoying, it's so hard to find furniture that looks good in it!" Yeah, we know you have a new apartment okayyy?
  • "It's so hard being popular. Everyone's always trying to be friends with me!" And yet, you still choose the popular life every day.
  • "I got so many likes on this picture, I'm worried people will think I bought them!" I really don't think anyone else is paying that much attention to your likes.
  • "My feet are so narrow, it's so hard finding shoes that fit." As if all the sandals on the face of the earth aren't super narrow.
HOWEVER! That is not to say that whenever someone says something like that it's intended to be a complaint-brag. Maybe that person really does have a hard time gaining weight (even though they wouldn't need to...).

Saturday, May 24, 2014

Makeup makes me insecure.

I am a makeup wearer. I've been one since about the middle of seventh grade. For perspective, I'm in eighth grade now.
I am torn. I don't know if I should continue to wear makeup.

PROS to wearing makeup:
  • It's fun to apply.
  • It makes me feel more confident when I'm wearing it.
  • It looks good.
CONS to wearing makeup:
  • Makes me feel very insecure when I'm not wearing it.
  • It takes a long time to apply, and it takes time out of my sleep.
  • It smells weird, and since it's on my face, I smell it all the time while I'm wearing it.
  • It makes my face feel weird. It's hard to explain, but my face just feels heavy when I have makeup on. I can feel that's there. Sometimes it even feels greasy if I'm not wearing enough powder.
  • People judge me for it.
  • Taking it off pulls out your eyelashes.
  • It smudges throughout the day and requires touch-ups, which I don't have time for.
  • It's hard to find the right foundation color.
  • When I wear a lot of eye makeup, I feel inclined to wear a lot of face makeup, because they go well together. They look good together.

This came up when I stupidly decided to put on a full face of makeup. I really regret it now.
I decided to put on some makeup because I randomly took a selfie, and upon inspecting it, I noticed the broken capillaries on my face, my red nose, and the dark acne scar on my nose. So I put on a full face of makeup.
You see, this is actually a big deal for me because I haven't put on a full face of makeup for months. I've been just using powder (not even powder foundation) on my face to sort of hide some of those things, but not makeup them completely disappear. I thought I was confident; comfortable in my own skin. But I guess not, because when I put on all that makeup, I felt so much better about my face. No more insecurities. But then, I knew that when I took it all off, I'd be insecure old me again, from seventh grade. Back to when I thought I had to be a Barbie.
Makeup killed my confidence in seventh grade. When I started wearing a full face of makeup to school every day, I realized how pretty I could make myself. That's how I decided I was ugly, and required makeup.
Now I know that I'm not ugly. Makeup doesn't make you pretty. It just hides some of your imperfections on the surface. Makeup can't give me a smaller nose, and it won't (and I don't want it to) take away my high cheekbones. But it can give me fuller eyebrows, less-red nose, and hide my broken capillaries.
But just as high cheekbones don't make me pretty, a big nose doesn't make me ugly. I'm not ugly. But I'm not a Barbie.
And that was okay with me until today. Before today, I realized that I didn't need to be a Barbie. I can have imperfections, just like everyone else. But then I took a look in the mirror and I realized that just because I don't hide them anymore, doesn't mean I don't have broken capillaries. They're not going anywhere. And that's why makeup makes me insecure.

But on the other hand, makeup is a normal thing. If everyone else is doing it, why shouldn't I? Beauty gurus on YouTube all wear a full face of makeup every day.
But I know that I'm different. I wear too much eye makeup. More than them. I wear thick eyeliner every day because I have trouble making it thinner. Eyeliner is no easy task. Sometimes I even wear a full gold smoky eye with eyeliner on top.
I disgust myself. I'm so insecure, and I didn't even know it.

I just don't know what to do. If I don't wear makeup, I miss all the pros of wearing it. If I wear makeup, I face all the cons of wearing it.

Wednesday, May 21, 2014

My Thoughts on Swearing

Everyone has their own opinions on swearing. Should people do it? Should they not?
But you know me, I'm pro-choice.
So I say if you want to swear, go for it. It's your choice. Therefore, I don't fault anyone for swearing. But that's not to say I'd openly swear 24/7.
But it's not that simple. Would I swear? Do I swear?

I swear in certain situations. Now here come to examples part of my usual blog posts...
  • I wouldn't swear while babysitting or in front of kids.
  • I wouldn't swear at school or in places I could get in trouble for it.
  • I would swear at home.
  • I would swear in front of my friends.
  • I would swear when something bad happens, like when I stub my toe, etc.
Although I wouldn't swear every 5 minutes in listed situations. I would swear when it's necessary and called for.

Saturday, May 17, 2014

Video Response: "Two Sports Bras"

Sorry if this post takes a while to load. There are a lot of pictures and videos.
Yesterday, I saw this video called "Big Boobs? Then Try Two Sports Bras!"

I initially didn't think much of it. I thought it was funny. I thought, "if the bounce bothers you so much, don't run or buy a sports bra that actually fits!)

But since I always look at the comments, I looked at the comments. There are some I'd like to respond to. I would've just replied on the comments themselves, but I wanted you guys (my readers/friends) to see what I wrote.
The format I used was a picture of the comment, then I wrote my response BELOW that.

The joke he is referring to was in the video when an actress said, "Because if dudes had tits, we'd have this problem figured out by now."
He's a guy so he wouldn't understand. The joke is sexist, but of course since it's against men, men would argue.

Clearly this is the case. I think the sports bra "problem" isn't really a problem because if women could find sports bras that fit and give them adequate support, they wouldn't be complaining. However, this is not to say I wouldn't wear 2 sports bras on occasion. So this comment is irrelevant.
Note: I edited this next paragraph a bit because I noticed I said some things that some people might take offense to. This is a tricky topic to discuss without offending anyone.

First of all, 36B is not small, girl! Now for the actual response, I also feel like the actors have little to no right to complain about The Bounce. They don't have nearly as much Bounce as "Kimberly Gawne" who's a 32G. She has a right to complain about The Bounce. The actresses' boobs don't even bounce in the video! About "Priscilla Collings," I suppose this may be true, but if you have small boobs and you're exercising, there's probably less bounce and there's probably little enough bounce so that you can just ignore it.
Disclaimer: I am not saying I have a right to complain about The Bounce, because honestly I don't know if I have a right to or not. I'm saying that the actresses don't have a right to complain about The Bounce.

Also, I noticed that at the end, a male announcer said quickly, "from the people who brought you wearing black underwear instead of a tampon." Well that's funny because that would never work in a MILLION years! Even if you couldn't see the stain, the blood would still leak through. I love how the announcer is a guy.


That is all.

I don't have to be a Barbie.

**If this were a YouTube video, I'd be bare-faced. So imagine me saying this without makeup on while you read this.**

This morning, though I didn't realize it, I had a life-altering realization. That's when it hit me: I don't have to be a Barbie. I have imperfections. So does everyone else.
I didn't wear foundation all day today. I still wore eyeliner, mascara, and blush because I still find it fun to apply.
Even though my skin's not perfect, I'm perfect just the way I am. I have acne and marks all over my face but so does everyone else. It's life. I don't have to have Barbie-smooth skin. I can have normal skin and still love myself the way I am and think I'm pretty. I can wear less makeup and still be confident. I can, so why don't I?
Because I used to think if I wore a lot of eye makeup, my skin had to look perfect to go along with it.
And I sort of still think that. So lately, I've been wearing just powder (not powder foundation, I need to get some of that) and blush on my face, and minimal eye makeup. It's quick and easy (takes 15 minutes) and I look and feel fantastic, without that greasy makeup feel on my face.

YAY for imperfection!

Thursday, May 8, 2014

Why Girls Go to the Bathroom Together

I feel like a lot of guys know the answer to this, but pretend not to.

This question arose at the beginning of swim practice today when two girls went to the bathroom together and I was the only remaining girl. At this point, there were only about 10 people there in total. So the assistant swim coach (our coach wasn't there today) asks the group, "why do they do that? Why do girls always go to the bathroom together?" We all offer an awkward knowing laugh, and the swim coach directs the question at me. "Julia?" And I say, "because they want to talk about people when they're not there." I basically toned down my usual answer to a school-appropriate level.

There's a number of reasons girls go the bathroom in pairs or groups. It usually has to do with saying or doing something without everyone else knowing.
  • They want to talk shit about people behind their backs (that's my usual answer).
  • They want to discuss something.
  • They need to borrow a pad/tampon.
  • They need to use the bathroom but girls go everywhere together so they have to go to the bathroom together too. I mean, who wants to go places alone?
  • They want to say something without saying it to the whole group, like "can you see my bra lines?" or "is my pad showing?" or "dayummm that boy is cute!"
I always felt like this was a given because DUH! Doesn't EVERYONE know that? I feel like guys pretend not to know so they can bring it up to break awkward silences.
BUT nonetheless, girls have very close relationships with their friends. They tell each other everything. Hence they go everywhere together. They can continue their conversation while in the bathroom. They can touch up their makeup together. Complain about other people together. Talk shit about other people behind their backs together.
It's a girl thing. I bet guys would do it too if it were socially acceptable. But when the girls leave the table, I bet the guys all have a conversation about us too.

Things I've Learned As a Short Girl

OMG, I just realized this has been unpublished as a "Draft" for DAYS! I wrote this like a week ago! I was so excited for my friends to see it, too, and now I realize it's been here all this time!



I thought of the idea for this post literally 30 seconds ago so now I'm writing it while it's still fresh in my mind.
Anyway, this is things I've learned as a short/small/petite girl. My height has taught me a lot of valuable life lessons and I want to share them. If you're also a short girl, you can probably relate and/or learn from some of these things. If you're tall, this will maybe help you sympathize with short girls...?

SO HERE WE GO
  • Never buy something thinking you'll "grow into it," because chances are, you won't.
  • You have to learn to make peace with your height, or you'll always hate the way you look. After all, there's no way to get taller. I'd suggest not drinking coffee though, just as a precaution. :) Being short has taught me to love me the way I am, and not hope to be someone I'm not and will never me. I'll never be a good basketball player or runner or swimmer because I have short limbs. Sports wouldn't be my forte, either way (short or tall).
  • You learn how to not let other people affect you when they make fun of you. People will make fun of you for being short, but that just makes you stronger (what doesn't kill you makes you stronger). This is probably why I don't care (enjoy it, if you will) when people mock me. My friends have told me people mock me. And it's okay with me. If you don't like me, not my problem biotch. You're the one who's gonna be all annoyed all the time.
  • I know it's hard to believe, but being short has taught me how to be confident. When I came to the realization that I have to love myself at the height I am, I realized that I'm not getting any prettier, or any uglier for that matter. I am who I am because everyone else is taken. So I might as well make the best of it. And in turn, this has improved my swimming because confidence plays a role in your sports (I will talk about this in a blog post soon).
  • Downfalls of being short:
    • You will have to hem long sleeves and long pants, let them bunch up at the ends, or cuff them. In fact, I kind of like the bunched-up look, for pants anyway. For shirts, you can always push up the sleeves so no one will notice.
    • When you hug normal-sized people, your face is in their chest, not over their shoulder.
    • You have to look up when talking to normal-sized or tall people.
    • You will never look as old as you are. This can be considered a perk if you're above 30, though. But I'm not. So there.
    • I don't know this for sure, but normal sized to tall people are probably looking down your shirt all the time.
    • Your legs are short and you look weird in dresses/skirts that fall lower than the knee.
    • Younger kids are taller than you a good 50% of the time. I babysit kids who are taller than me sometimes... When I was doing my 5th grade tour, I saw someone I know in the hallway and they happened to comment on my height, so we (my minions and I) got into a discussion about my height and one of the fifth graders PITIED me. Yeah, as if you're so tall. I don't think you'll appreciate it when your first girlfriend 10 years from now is taller than you.
  • Perks of being short:
    • You can fit into kids' sizes.
    • You can keep clothes for years until they wear out, because you'll never grow out of them. I have multiple shirts from 5th grade (I made a big wardrobe switch in fifth grade from little kids' clothes to teen clothes). In fact, my favorite shirt is (and always has been) from 5th grade.
    • You can stand up straight in the attics of old houses.
    • You can pass off as being 12 for ordering off the kids' menu.
    • You'll never be taller than your boyfriend, if you care about that sort of thing.
    • Your shoe size doesn't really change either so you can keep shoes until they look like they survived a hurricane!
    • Being short is a good conversation starter if you want to make friends with someone. You can say something like "I'm soooo glad stores are selling shorts again. Jeans are always too long on me," and that person can either relate or is fascinated.
    • High-waisted shorts, skirts, and pants look extra good on you. They make your legs look longer.
    • Short skirts look extra good on you for the same reason.
    • You never have to worry about people being able to see up your skirt!

Wednesday, May 7, 2014

Problems & Solutions for Summer

I love summer, but nonetheless it comes with problems. Here's how I'm going to fix some of these problems.
The format of the bullets are problem: solution.
  • Bug/mosquito bites: Use bug spray and AfterBite. I haven't used bug spray much in the past because my parents don't believe in it, but I'll be going into high school next year and it's about time I start making my own decisions. I'll purchase it myself if I need to!
  • Sun burns: Spray-on sunscreen.
  • Makeup getting dewy-looking and sliding off your face from sweat: not wearing face makeup!! I can't believe I'm saying this, but I'm planning on going mostly bare-faced during the hot months of summer. I'll still wear eye makeup, sure, but foundation, concealer, and powder just feel kind of THERE when they're on your face and it's even worse in the summer because there's sweat on top and you can't just wipe your sweaty face because you'll wipe your makeup right off. I'll still wear long-lasting cream blush, though :)
  • Swimsuits getting too small too quickly: buy cheap Forever21 bathing suits so that I can buy them in quantity, not quality as quality would not be option.
  • Running out of clothes to wear: wearing old clothes. I can do this by tying shirts that are too big at the side (for whatever reason, I always used to buy clothes--especially shirts that were meant to be fitted--that were too big. What was wrong with me??), and cutting T-shirts that are REALLY too big and I don't care much about.
  • Boredom: Watch YouTube videos A LOT. And if friends are around (because they always leave me here to rot away while they go on vacation), hang out with them around town, at the mall, or at the beach. I really need a pool... Most of the time, I will probably sit around fantasizing about how awesome high school will be. *Sigh* I know it won't be that awesome but I can't help thinking about it.
Okay, well I'm going to bed now. It's midnight, and my awakeness that resulted from my taking a nap is starting to wear off. Good night.

Monday, May 5, 2014

Rude!

Please don't be rude. There's just no need.
Be polite and respectful.
I have some examples, as usual, of when you shouldn't be rude.
  • Don't close the door on someone's face.
  • Say "please" and "thank you."
  • Always try to speak in a nice and caring (yet strong and confident) voice.
  • Don't ignore people.
  • Don't trample people on your way down the hallway.
  • Don't (nearly) knock over people's lunch trays.
  • If you think Becky's ugly, keep it to yourself.
  • When someone talks to you, answer them kindly and politely, no matter what they're saying and who it's coming from.
  • You can hold a grudge on people, I respect that, but don't treat those people rudely because you hold a grudge.
Don't be rude! No matter the circumstances! You can hate people, sure. I can respect that. But don't voice your opinion if it's negative. If you don't have anything good to say, don't say anything at all. It's as simple as that.

**I am being hypocritical here as in, I often complain about people. Sometimes you do need to vent. But most of the time, I try to be nice, at least to their faces.**