Saturday, June 27, 2015

Why I Don't Use "No Homo"

I've thought about this many times before but I never thought I had enough to put in a blog post. However, I was inspired by this video to write this.
  1. It's implying that it's bad to be homosexual, because people use "no homo" as a clarification that they're not being homosexual/homoromantic.
  2. There's tons of other, more clear ways to say this. For example: "not in a romantic way"
  3. People use "no homo" because it makes them feel cool, but it's actually kind of offensive. The LGBT+ community is really dear to my heart (partially because I see myself as part of it), so this saying  sometimes feels like a personal attack.
  4. Even if you don't see it as offensive, just don't say it because it can be taken the wrong way and why not just avoid saying it?
  5. "Not in a romantic way" is assumed between friends, regardless of their sexual orientations but even more so if they're not attracted to that gender. For example, between two straight girls. If you cuddle your best friend while watching Mean Girls, nobody is going to think it's because you're attracted to her! You should be, and are able to physically show how much you care without it being seen as romantic.
Source
 
So bottom line is: I don't like it when other people use the phrase "no homo" but I'm not going to stop them. But personally, I don't use it because I can see how offensive it is.

Monday, June 22, 2015

Why I'm a Feminist and Why You Should Be Too


Why I'm a feminist: because I believe in gender equality duh

Why you should be a feminist:
Most people are against feminism because
  1. They misunderstand the word and what "feminism" entails
    1. They think the crazy shit feminists do and female superiority is part of feminism
  2. They don't want to associate themselves with the bad connotations of feminism even though they believe in gender equality
  3. They never put a word to their beliefs
  4. They're stuck living in the past with the "chivalry" shit
  5. They don't understand what women go through on a daily basis with the wage gap, etc.
And they are each wrong because
  1. Feminism includes ONLY gender equality. It doesn't include female superiority or being a crazy bitch. Some feminists are crazy bitches, but that's just because that's who they are and it has nothing to do with feminism.
  2. Being a feminist doesn't automatically make you a crazy bitch who believes in female superiority. That's like saying being Muslim automatically makes you a terrorist. Some Muslims are terrorists, most aren't. You shouldn't be afraid to call yourself a feminist just because some feminists take it too far and give feminism a bad reputation. Don't let feminism as a whole be tainted by the bad feminists out there.
  3. Now that you see this, put a word to your beliefs.
  4. Women need to fend for themselves. Men will not do everything for you.
  5. You have no idea what an average woman goes through on a daily basis. She gets paid 73% of what men get paid, she gets sexually harassed, she subconsciously worries about getting raped all the time, and on top of that she has to deal with the physical hardships of being a woman (birthing babies, periods, boobs, etc.). Women are badass, and they deserve to be equal to men. Men are in no way superior to women and should be treated like so.

Saturday, June 13, 2015

My Summer Plans

The last month of school, everyone always asks me, "do you have any plans over summer break?" and I always say "no." But that's not completely true. I plan to have a self-improving and enlightening summer (and enjoy myself while doing so), and still hang out with my friends and do regular summer stuff.

Regular summer stuff I will do over summer:
  • Go to the beach
  • Hang out with friends
  • Scroll through Tumblr, watch YouTube videos, read PT, Yik Yak
  • Watch Orphan Black
  • Eat watermelon
  • Buy fun summer clothes (bikinis!)
  • Let go of the stress of school and enjoy myself for two and a half months

Irregular, enlightening summer stuff I will do over summer:
  • Get my own library card
  • Write more blog posts about things I genuinely care about and am passionate about
  • Enjoy nature and read
    • Walk to the local library near my house and pick up a book
    • Go on walks in nature and just enjoy the scenery
    • Read a book in a quiet place outdoors
  • Practice handwriting so I don't forget how to write when I get back to school
  • Bask in the sonorous sounds of music through good quality earphones (to make the experience better and immerse myself)
  • Laugh a lot
  • Have deep conversations with friends and family to help improve myself and learn
  • Appreciate what I take for granted
  • Learn:
    • about the world around me
    • current events
    • world history
    • how to improve myself
    • self-actualize
    • achieve a higher level of consciousness
    • how to be a better person
    • how to be happy and learn about hedonism
    • how to let go of others' expectations yet still make myself happy (sometimes others' expectations overlap with what makes us happy)
    • how to be confident (sorry to throw that superficiality in there, had to)
  • Read:
    • an atlas and learn about world geography
    • history books
    • the social section on my Period Tracker Deluxe app (I just try not to be affected by other people's opinions)
    • Nytimes
    • Google News
    • Self-improvement novels (source) (source)
      • Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can't Stop Talking by Susan Cain (not to label myself as an introvert. I prefer to go unlabeled. I love spending time with friends.)
      • The Power of Now: A Guide to Spiritual Enlightenment by Eckhart TolleDrive: The Surprising Truth About What Motivates Us by Daniel H. Pink
      • The Willpower Instinct: How Self Control Works, Why It Matters, and What You Can Do to Get More of It by Kelly McGonigal
      • The Breakout Principle: How to Activate the Natural Trigger That Maximizes Creativity, Athletic Performance, Productivity, and Personal Well-Being by Herbert Benson
      • The Road Less Traveled, Timeless Edition: A New Psychology of Love, Traditional Values, and Spiritual Growth by M. Scott Peck
      • Handbook to Higher Consciousness by Ken Keyes
    • Classics that may also help with self-improvement
      • On the Road by Jack Kerouac
      • The Happiness Project: Or, Why I Spent A Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have More Fun by Gretchen Rubin
I probably won't get to all of the books, but I'm hoping I'll be able to make an adventure/journey out of it. I'm currently self-actualized enough to know I have problems, but not how to fix all of them.

Legalize Female Toplessness

The facts
http://gotopless.org/topless-laws
"Green = top freedom is in effect
Orange = ambiguous state laws
Red = the mere showing of female breast in public is illegal
[according to state law]"
Sexist laws are completely legal, unlike racist ones. According to the U.S. Constitution, it's completely okay to discriminate against sex but not against race!

Why I believe it should be legal:
  • Women's breasts have been sexualized by society when in fact they're for feeding our children.
  • As for breastfeeding in public, we're feeding the next generation of life. Please remind me how that's sexual..?
  • You don't have to go topless even if it's legal. If you personally wouldn't be comfortable with doing it, that's totally okay! But don't stop other women from doing it. For example, I personally wouldn't go topless (regardless of my gender) because I'm not comfortable showing that much skin, but I think it should be acceptable for women to go topless if they want.
  • Laws shouldn't micro-manage our lives like this. I shall do whatever the fuck I want.
  • We have made women's breasts immodest for no reason.
  • If women are expected to cover it up, so should men because of gender equality!
    • It's completely acceptable (as it should be) for a FtM trans man to have a bare chest. That chest had boobs on it before! It's the same chest, but now that person identifies as male, so it's apparently okay now.
  • Boobs are oversexualized. Prime example of women being objectified.
  • Can't we just treat women's upper bodies like we treat men's? Men have boobs too!

Me crushing other people's ideas of why female toplessness should be illegal:
  • "We should just be decent and modest" - who decided that female chests are indecent and immodest? If society had groundlessly decided men's chests are indecent instead, then this whole debate would be over men, and it would sound totally normal! If society had deemed it so, men's chests could be considered equally immodest. People who say this are seeing the issue on a superficial level, as if the question were "should women wear tops in public or not?", but they're not considering why covering our chests is considered the "modest" thing to do. I bet some idiot decided that on a whim to suppress women.
Me dissing a Yahoo Answers post and crushing his ideas of why female toplessness should be illegal:
  • "How far should freedom be allowed to go without society being degraded?"
    • You're still seeing this from a superficial standpoint. Women's breasts shouldn't be considered indecent or "degrading."
  • "are these women 100% certain of their real true motivations behind the claim of "Equality", or is it simply veiled jealousy of men's ability to be seen in a non-sexual light when their shirts are off?"
    • Yes, that's exactly what it is. Women ARE jealous that men's chests aren't sexualized and women's are. Because what's the difference between a man and a woman's breasts? The woman's has more fat, and milk glands. So what makes the woman's more sexual than the man's?
    • And of course, the equality piece is also a big issue.
  • "Factually speaking, modern heterosexual men are highly attracted to women's breasts to the point of intense feverishness, and women know this... which shows... why many women might wish to have the attention poured upon them in such a way"
    • You are saying that women who go topless are seeking attention, which in my opinion is not for you to judge.
    • Who are you to judge someone's true intentions, and particularly that of a generalization of a group of people?
  • "but there are factually men who cannot control themselves when they are confronted by such an obvious and open display of female sexuality, from which breasts cannot easily or simply be removed...true or not true?"
    • first of all, smartass, your wording needs some work here.
    • Secondly, you're saying women should cover up so as not to tempt men?!?! This is an example of a good way to use the "don't teach how to avoid being raped. Teach not to rape" concept (although I don't agree with "don't teach how to avoid being raped", I do think men should be taught to control themselves).
    • It's also victim-blaming because you're telling girls that it's their fault men do inappropriate things to them because they go out in public topless.
    • Yes, it's easy for girls to not go out topless, but why should they have to? It shouldn't even be seen as bad for a girl to go out topless.
  • "perhaps the laws are in place not to 'restrict' women from their inherent freedoms, but rather to PROTECT THEM from men or persons that may simply not be able to control themselves, especially when drunk or on drugs, etc.."
    • I can protect myself, thank you very much. I don't need laws to do it for me.
    • That would be like making a law that says women can't go into dark alleys because it risks rape, or kids can't eat candy because it risks child obesity.
    • If I want to wear a top to protect myself, I will. You don't need to force me to. If I go out topless, I'm going out knowing I have a higher risk of being taken advantage of. Women aren't stupid.
  • He discusses common decency - see category above
  • "Is it not also the sovereign right of all those (the masses including small children) who would then become forced onlookers of the bare breasted women in question to have their rights upheld and not be forced to have to view legions of boob-airing women exercising their right to expose their not-necessarily-so-beautiful-looking mammaries in public?"
    • All breasts are different, and all breasts are beautiful. No one has "not so beautiful looking" breasts. This is literally the worst and most ignorant thing I've ever heard!
    • If you get the pleasure of seeing a woman naked, are you really going to think her boobs are ugly? However, you're an ignorant fuck so it's doubtful you'll ever see a woman naked. Us women know how to dodge a bullet ;)
    • Additionally, are you implying that children shouldn't be exposed variety of different looking boobs? That's like saying kids shouldn't be exposed to a variety of people from different races! Also, I hate to burst your bubble, but kids have already seen boobs as a child, because um... they were breastfed for the first couple years of their lives. ??
    • "become forced onlookers" - I'm pretty sure women have already seen boobs and men would love some extra boob in their lives. So this is invalid. Everyone either wants to see boobs or is fine with seeing boobs. (I can't speak for gay men, but you get the idea.)
  • "Women who wish to bare their breasts publicly should perhaps theoretically have the right to do so, but conversely, the innocent masses who wish to retain the freedom to be free of being forced to deal with viewing hordes of topless women parade around in public also have rights."
    • No, you have the right to your personal freedom and pursuit of happiness if it doesn't affect anyone else. (I can't say for the U.S., but the see the British Declaration of the Rights of Man)
      • "Liberty consists in the ability to do whatever does not harm another; hence the exercise of the natural rights of each man has no other limits than those which assure to other members of society the enjoyment of the same rights." - The Declaration of the Rights of Man
  • I understand that this post was written by a male.
    • This is why ours laws suck, because laws are being made FOR women BY men!
    • Men don't understand how demeaning and limiting it is to not be able to go topless in public without being arrested or seen as a slut.
    • They also don't understand how uncomfortable and how much of a nuisance bras are.
  • My question is, who wrote this post? Because women want the freedom to go topless in public, and (straight) men want to see women topless in public.
So yeah, there it is. Hope you enjoyed the post and learned something from it (took me an hour between 1:20 AM and 2:27 AM).

Wednesday, June 10, 2015

Less Testing, More Learning

           The school environment has become toxic for students. School is a place for learning and preparing yourself for the real world, but it has been tainted by morphing into a superficial place for incessant testing.

           Overtesting teaches students to work towards getting good grades instead of learning about the world around them and enlightening themselves. This is not only damaging to their futures, but it doesn’t actually teach them the information. This atmosphere of “memorize it, take the test, and forget it” causes the information to go into their short-term memory or the pre-frontal lobe of their brains instead of going into their long-term memory or the cortex of their brains. In fact, short-term memory is used to accomplish something you have planned to do. This type of memory gives us the ability to hold on to a piece of information temporarily in order to complete a task. This WHS mindset allows kids to forget the information they learn as soon as they’re tested on it. But overtesting isn’t just ineffective, it leads to an unhealthy lifestyle. Students neglect healthy eating and exercising for study for incessant tests.
            Haven’t you ever had three tests in one day? The week leading up to it consists of nonstop studying, lack of sleep, and loss in appetite. You might even have other sports or out-of-school activities to attend after school. This puts a time constraint on your studies, which depending on how long it takes you to memorize information, can lead to long-term sleep deprivation. Twenty bucks says you are running on coffee right now.
            Standardized tests such as the SATs give kids a number based on how well they did. This is essentially dehumanization, similar to how Elie Wiesel was given the number A-7713 at a concentration camp in Night. It takes away students' identity and replaces it with a number that's supposed to represent their intelligence, when it's commonly an inaccurate representation. These numbers are a representation of how fast you can memorize information, or how much time you have on your hands, or where your motivations lie.
 
You shouldn’t be defined by a number or a test score. You’re more than that. Those numbers don’t determine how intelligent or hard-working you are, they just determine how easy it is for you to memorize and spit out information that’s been shoved down our throats. But for real, if you want to get into college, do your homework kids!

*** Disclaimer: this short essay was written for my English class as a speech so that explains the fancy language.

Tuesday, June 2, 2015

Death Penalty

This came up at lunch so I decided to write about it. This is basically a "capital punishment: life in prison vs death penalty" blog post.

PRO

  • People who commit crimes don't deserve to live on this earth.
  • Prison inmates sometimes get out on parole or get visited by their family. They shouldn't get that privilege.
  • Lethal injection is cheaper than feeding someone and keeping someone alive in prison.
  • Revenge
  • Give them a taste of their own medicine
  • They deserve it.
  • Don't waste taxpayers' money on people who commit crimes by giving them life in prison.
  • Tsarnaev is messed up in the head. He is insane. There's no going back.
  • Other people who want to do similar things will learn that this will happen to them too.
  • They will suffer for months waiting for the verdict or waiting to actually be killed.
  • It's not an escape because people don't want to die. Human instinct tells you to keep yourself alive.


AGAINST

  • "Execution is more expensive than life in prison." Which is incorrect. 
  • Life in prison is worse than dying.
  • Dying is an escape from life in prison.
  • Revenge is an animalistic instinct. We should show that we've progressed as a society.
  • Inflicting death is retrogression.
  • Killing someone doesn't show them how bad murdering is, because you're doing it too which makes it okay. It's hypocritical. Also they're dead so you can't show them anything. 
  • People who die through the death penalty are remembered. They are seen as martyrs.
  • Putting someone in prison is waiting until they're forgotten.


MY OPINION
I feel that people who commit crimes shouldn't even be allowed the privilege of inhabiting our earth. However, my brother opened my eyes as a nonsupporter of the death penalty and instead of saying "cause prison is less expensive" or "cause killing is bad", he gave me specific reasons (listed above). So I still lean towards pro-death penalty punishment but I now see where everyone's coming from.