Saturday, January 30, 2016

Why is This Generation Depressed?

Everyone I know is depressed, anxious, or has some other mental health problem. This didn't seem to be a problem when our parents were this age. Was it because now people are more willing to admit to their mental health problems? Is it because of less stigma around mental health in this generation? Or is mental health actually more of a problem now? The article below argues not.
Studies and have shown "millennials could be the most depressed generation at work" (Kristie Eshelman, Millennials...). We get it, we're depressed and stressed and anxious. But why? I've done some research and the answer is unclear. "Why So Many People Are Stressed and Depressed" says technology is not at fault. I beg to differ. Here's a list I've compiled of why I think this generation (millennials/teens) suffers from so many mental health problems:
  1. More rigorous high schools, causing more stress at a younger age
  2. The media feeding us unrealistic beauty standards, leading to insecurity
  3. Less face-to-face talking due to technology
  4. Increasing unrest in the workplace and in school - not being satisfied with sitting at a desk all day
  5. Desire to have a fulfilling life - we work harder in school to get a better job so we can do what we want in our lives
  6. Overpopulation - more competition to get into better colleges
  7. Pressure to get a college degree
  8. Helicopter parents - kids don't learn how to think for themselves from a young age and are stranded when they go off to college and into the real world
  9. College's rising standards - kids are "groomed to be academic overachievers, but become, in reality, an emotional underachiever" (Brooke Donatone and Slate, Why are so many...)
This is my take on it from the standpoint of someone who's in the middle of it all. But what I really want you to take out of this is: Adults, you may think your child isn't suffering, but if they ask for help, give it to them. Be more attuned to depression and mental health in your children.


Wednesday, January 27, 2016

Children's Rights

I just stumbled across this article online. A Michigan mother was upset that she had to allow her daughter to have a five-minute conversation with her doctor alone.
A while ago I did some research on this and had to dig deep to find out parents are required to leave during a doctor's appointment if the child requests it, but parents often refuse to leave and nobody bothers to argue.
In my opinion, parents aren't beneficial to have at the doctor's appointment. I understand parents are concerned for their child's safety and want to make sure nothing happens to their child (i.e., molestation, kidnapping). However that is an unlikely occurrence. For the most part, parents jump in during the questioning and answer questions for their child. This alters the responses, because it becomes what the parent THINKS the child is doing, instead of what the child is actually doing. The only way to prevent this is to make the parent leave, at least for the questioning portion of the visit.
Many doctors also put their pediatrics patients in paper gowns. These gowns don't do shit. It just makes you feel a little better about being mostly naked in front of a stranger (and your parent). Most children over the age of ten find it embarrassing to be naked in front of their parents. It should be the child's right to prevent this. A child should be able to decide who gets to see them naked.
But this often isn't the case. It technically is required by law if the child so desires, but parents can really just say "I'd rather not," and nobody will bother to argue. Isn't that fucked up? Kids have virtually NO rights with their own bodies until they turn eighteen.

For eighteen years of MY life, my parents could potentially do whatever they want with me.
I can't dye or cut my hair past my boobs, I can't get my nose pierced, I can't wear any shirt they deem as "see through" or "low-cut." I should be able to do what I want with MY body. My parents shouldn't be allowed to decide what I do with my body. They don't own me. Isn't it messed up that parents can tell a seventeen-year-old not to wear a certain shirt? Your parents' personal opinions should not dictate what you do with your body. My body, my choice. The law needs to reflect that.

Wednesday, January 13, 2016

Video Response: "Questions Gay People Have for Bisexuals"

My first reaction to this was immediately disgust. Allow me to link another highly biphobic video on YouTube, from the gay community.

Here's the followup video, where bisexuals respond to the video above.

As a pansexual teenager, here's what I learned from these two videos:

  • I'm greedy
  • I'm a slut
  • I'm not accepted in the LGBT+ community
  • My sexuality is not real
  • I'm "just confused"
  • No lesbian will ever want to date me
Might as well call it the LGT community. Yeah maybe I am confused. But most bisexuals aren't.
One could argue they were just asking questions in the BuzzFeed video. That would be a valid point, but the gay people phrased it extremely rudely. It would be fine if they phrased it politely and delicately. But their language was crude and offensive. They clearly did not want to learn; they wanted to express their disapproval for bisexuality.
It saddens me not only to know that bisexuals are so discriminated against, not only in general, but in the gay/LGBT community, where they have personally experienced the same discrimination, and on BuzzFeed, which is normally so accepting and politically correct.

All that being said, let us be the bigger man. The gay community is rude to us, let's take it as an opportunity to educate them. However, that's not to say the gay community is just ignorant and they need to be educated. In contrast to the description of the video below ("The LGBT community should take time to educate others and not deem ignorance as hate"), there is a difference between ignorant and hate, and in the two videos embedded above, you can tell from their body language and their personalities (from other BuzzFeed videos) that they are well educated and this is pure biphobia.
Skip to 1:20 to see the outro, where Arielle explains how we need to educate people on bisexuality.

Side note: isn't it fascinating how Arielle can make one video praising and protecting bisexuals, and a year later make another one condemning them for their sexuality? Still love you Arielle.

Now, in closing, allow me to refer you to another video if you are on the biphobic side.