Wednesday, March 30, 2016

I Grew Out My Over-Plucked Eyebrows


Before (filled in)
After (threaded and filled in)



As you can see, my eyebrows have been through quite an ordeal. I wanted to share this experience as inspiration for anyone else trying to grow out their eyebrows, as while I was growing mine out I looked for stuff like that online and came up mostly empty.
I feel like all of the potentially cute pictures of me from seventh grade to about three months ago (sophomore year) are ruined. My pencil-thin brows just ruin the whole picture! What a shame.






As I was growing out my eyebrows, I periodically took pictures of them to mark my progress, in preparation for this post. So here they are.









































I was initially hesitant to grow out my brows for fear of looking bad with a thicker brow, the hair not growing, looking gross and stubbly, stuff like that. What I've learned is:
  • Everyone looks best with a variation of their natural eyebrows. If you have naturally thick eyebrows, your face probably looks best with bold brows.
  • If you think your eyebrows won't grow back, they probably will.
  • The stubbly part was worth it in the end because I ended up with my dream eyebrows.
  • There are still parts that don't grow on my eyebrows, but that's okay. I do fill in my eyebrows so it's not a problem. When I don't fill in my brows, if I brush them a certain way, the patches are not noticeable. You  can see in the March 29 picture, there are sparse spots in the middle of my left brow and at the bottom of the tail on my right brow. I'm still hoping those will fill in.
  • I thought I was done growing out my eyebrows on March 2. But as you can see, they kept growing. Luckily I didn't go straight to the threader's from there.
  • It's okay if they're a bit asymmetrical. My eyebrows have always been asymmetrical from the day I was born, and I have always resented that. But now I care less, if at all.
  • Ignore all that bullshit about "strategically growing them out in a line." It's better to leave them alone completely to get your optimal natural shape in the end.
I will admit, I had/have a bit of an eyebrow obsession. This began way before the Internet eyebrow movement happened, so that wasn't the cause. My theory is, it all began when a friend teased me for having a "unibrow." I was maybe in late sixth or early seventh grade. I hadn't noticed it until then, but when I went home I looked in the mirror and saw it for the first time. I immediately ran to my mom and asked for a pair of tweezers. She handed them over with a warning: just pluck in the middle, not on your actual eyebrows. Needless to say, I did not take her advice. At the beginning I did, but when that same friend came to school with fully waxed eyebrows, I followed suit, tweezers in hand. The over-plucking happened gradually without my realizing it. It's easy to pluck a little bit more every day and eventually end up with no eyebrows. I wish I'd gotten my eyebrows done by a professional from the start.
My favorite part of this experience is not having to fill in my eyebrows every day if I don't want to. I now feel comfortable going out in public with no makeup on because I actually have eyebrows. There was a moment in early January when I looked in the mirror and realized I had no eyebrows. I was at CVS with no makeup on, and it took a lot for me to go out in public without my eyebrows on, and I had a realization: I have no eyebrows. Family (who see my bare face every day) noticed, but I paid no mind until then. I just thought they were being mean (which they were, but I now understand their concern).
Another great thing is that now I have a more defined shape. There had been days pre-growth when I'd spend my whole half an hour I allotted myself in the morning for makeup on my eyebrows because I couldn't get the shape right. I constantly felt self-conscious about my eyebrows, and if they didn't come out exactly how I wanted that day, I would feel like crap for the entire day. Now, my eyebrows take me five minutes max to fill in in the morning, and I never feel self-conscious about them. Also, if anyone's curious, my favorite eyebrow is the right.
Regarding how I grew them out, there's really no trick to it. Just PUT AWAY THE TWEEZERS. No plucking. Don't say "oh just three hairs!" because you don't know if those three hairs that look super far away from your eyebrow will become part of your brow later when they grow in more. I used castor oil for a while, which is supposed to help your eyebrows grow, but I felt like it was pulling out too many hairs to be worth it, and my pillow was getting all greasy and it was just kind of disgusting. I also tried coconut oil with similar results.
I hope that was inspirational for any of you embarking on your own eyebrow growth journey. Good luck. If you have no interest in your eyebrows, this post may have been a tad boring for you. I apologize.

Saturday, March 26, 2016

First Impression: Eyebrow Threading


In case you didn't know (source)
Today I got my eyebrows done for the first time, threading specifically. It was kind of spur of the moment, so I didn't have time to mentally prepare myself. A while ago, I had online and found the highest rated eyebrow threading place in my area. I had been growing out my eyebrows and they were getting a bit out of hand. I didn't want to go at it with tweezers for fear of over-plucking like I had in the past, which is what forced me to grow them out in the first place. I was not looking to go back to square one. I resolved to get them done. The reason I chose threading over waxing was because I heard it was less painful, caused less redness afterward, and was more exact (it supposedly leaves you with a cleaner line). Also I just wanted to try it and thought it would be a cool experience. Which it was and I'm glad I did!
Honestly the fifteen minutes it took for the "therapist" to thread my eyebrows was agony, wondering if they were going to turn out horrible and overplucked. The therapist had very nice, bushy eyebrows though, so that was reassuring. She knew it was my first time, so she directed me what to do more. If you haven't seen videos of other people waxing (below), they ask you to pull the skin taught so the thread can catch the hairs easier. The pain was comparable to tweezing, but it was continuous and included smaller peach fuzz hair so more was being removed at once. It was totally bearable, and my eyes didn't water.


At first, I was skeptical about the sculpted brows I was left with. I've grown accustomed to having more natural, less defined brows since growing them out. But I decided I love them. I didn't want to put myself in the position of having to choose to pluck to not to pluck a certain hair, like I used to when I plucked a lot. I used to pluck every day back in middle school through freshman year. My eyebrows were pretty bad. Here's an old picture for your pleasure:
Fun fact: this was the first time I straightened my hair (using my friend's flatiron) and I whitened my teeth using PicsArt XD) - August 24, 2014
I thought this was cute at the time. Or maybe I didn't notice. Still have that purple sports bra.

Time it took: 15 mins
Price: $17.00
Pain: 1/5
Redness: 1/5
Will I do it again? Probably not, but we'll see. I'm going to try to keep up the shape with tweezers.

Advice if you're getting your eyebrows threaded for the first time:
  • Don't wear a lot of eye makeup, because you'll smudge it when your fingers are all over your eyelids
  • Don't apply makeup to the threaded areas afterwards for at least a few hours, it might clog your pores
  • If they ask you what shape you want, "just clean it up" will usually suffice
  • Don't give them the benefit of the doubt. I've heard way too many "bad thread job" stories about people who went in feeling skeptical (maybe the therapist had thin/overplucked brows herself, or the place just seemed shady). Don't do that to yourself. Save your brows.
Here's the results:
Before - sorry you can't see it that well and you only get one eyebrow. That's my good side tbh
After - Don't they look great??? Also look at my earrings, do I look hot or do I look hot

I Wore Men's Deodorant For a Week

My Dove women's deodorant just wasn't doing the trick anymore, but I wasn't willing to spend $9.99 on a "clinical strength" women's deodorant. I had heard online men's deodorant works better, so I thought why not try it? And to add a little twist on it, I bought a scented one. The purpose of this experiment was to see if anyone noticed or cared that I smelled like a man, if I smelled like a man at all, and if men's deodorant is any better or more effective than women's.

The rules
  • It must be scented - no unscented deodorants! (I also bought an unscented one for long-term use after the week is over)
  • Must be antiperspirant as well
  • Wear it every day for a week
  • Record when something noteworthy happens regarding the deodorant
  • You must not keep your arms down on purpose or wear long sleeves every day on purpose to hide it.

At the store
All the mens' deodorant smell like shit. I would probably vomit if my brother wore one of these (he wears Old Spice's "Pure Sport" which isn't as nauseating). I chose one that still smells manly but slightly less vomit-inducing. I noticed all the men's deodorants have this spicy note that I do not appreciate. Another thing I noticed is that all the men's deodorants were $3.59 and the women's were anywhere from $4.29 to $9.99. So if nothing else, I saved money!
The deodorants I chose (left to right): Speed Stick Power Unscented Antiperspirant Deodorant, Degree Men Extreme Anti-Perspirant (scented)
First Impressions
Sunday, March 6, first application. The first thing I noticed is that the scent is more prominent than I expected. The second thing I noticed is that it leaves a white residue I'm not too keen on. I feel mildly like I want to throw up. I don't know if I'm gonna make it through the whole week. The unscented (Speed Stick)  one actually does not have a scent, contrary to my Dove women's unscented deodorant, which has a clean, fresh scent rather than none at all.

Throughout the Week
The Degree brand deodorant continues to leave a white residue on my armpits. The Speed Stick did not. No one has noticed the scent, even when I pointed it out. I noticed I'm sweating a LOT less, if any. The antiperspirant really works! And I didn't smell either. My pits were noticeably less damp.

The Final Verdict
Men's deodorant > women's deodorant
Degree < Speed Stick

Saturday, March 5, 2016

Short Girl Fashion Tips

Here's some tips that will actually help you.

  1. Wear all the short shorts. I heard they're actually a no-no for short girls, but I disagree. They look proportionate on petite people, and we can get away with it because in comparison to our legs, they don't look as short on us as they would on a taller girl. Rock those daisy dukes!
  2. When tucking in shirts, especially with a high waist, wear a skinny belt. It sort of looks like a continuation of the shirt and tricks the eye.
  3. Instead of buying high waisted pants, buy mid-rise pants. Instead of hitting right under your boobs, they'll hit at your belly button, which looks more proportionate on us and is more comfortable.
  4. If a shirt is too long, knot it at the side for a casual look and in the middle for a more fitted look. Knotting doesn't work with shirts that fit in length because there's not enough fabric to use. Knot it in the back if you don't want it to be seen.
  5. (source)
  6. If the shirt is too long, another option is to tuck it in or do a half-tuck.
  7. (source)
  8. If a shirt's sleeves are too long, cuff or push them up to disguise it. This also helps you look taller.
  9. If pants are too long, cuff them, leave the wrinkles at the end, or hem them yourself.
  10. (source)
  11. Learn how to do simple alterations, like shortening pants, shirts, sleeves, and skirts.
  12. Opt for a miniskirt. They look proportionate on our bodies.
  13. Buy things that actually fit. You can rock anything if it fits your body.
  14. Buy kids' clothes and shoes--but be careful. Kids' clothes are cheaper, but often lower quality and cut differently. They often have a more boxy cut for clothes, and the shoes are often rounder at the toe.
  15. Kids' vs. women's rain boots (source)
  16. Look for a petite section, but don't be discouraged if you can't find one.
  17. Break all the "rules." Nobody can tell you what to wear. Avoiding certain outfits is a waste of your life and honestly doesn't help that much. Do whatever you want. I'm sure nobody will care either way.

Friday, March 4, 2016

Response: "All Lives Matter"

When I saw this post on Tumblr, it was the straw that broke the camel's back.
http://japanmalum.tumblr.com/post/140429537451/bi-privilege-simplyintuition-bi-privilege
This post brought me back to "All Lives Matter" because this is what I see: politically correct people trying to raise awareness for black lives, since black people are continuously getting killed by police officers in the United States. Then, more PC people jump in and say, "hey wait! You can't do that! You can't call out one group of people over another! Let's all just be happy and peaceful, let's not call out one specific group." The problem is, they're missing the point of "black lives matter." The whole point is to bring attention to black losses. They're just trying to be as politically correct as possible, and forgetting the point of being PC--to help people, particularly minorities.
(For future reference, I will be equating "all lives matter" with "people are great" in the Tumblr post.) I know this is not a new idea, but here's my addition to it: we all thought this whole "all lives matter" thing blew over by now, for the most part. But this same concept prevails, particularly on Tumblr. For instance, with "Bi girls are great" "People are great." It's a battle of the PCs. Who can be more PC? Does it matter? We're missing the point here. We're trying to help people who need help by being PC.
With "all lives matter," I see white people trying to metaphorically wipe some of the blood off their hands. They want to victimize themselves, so they don't look so much like the perpetrators. They don't want to accept their white privilege. White people are not the victim here. Hetero and homosexual people are not the victim here. The victim is the minority. By saying "all lives matter" and "people are great," you are belittling their suffering by comparing it to yours.
The purpose of the original poster was to raise awareness for bi girls. Bi girls suffer in a unique way, because many don't even believe one can be attracted to two genders (read: bi hate), and OP is trying to call attention to that and remind bi girls that they are awesome and their suffering hasn't gone unnoticed. By saying "people are great," you are erasing "bi" from the entire line, therefore erasing the purpose of the post. This no longer calls attention to bi girls at all, rather it's more of a casual "you're worth it" reminder, which is great too, but not the purpose of this post.
It's a minority for a reason. Don't try to include yourself in it. The majority is not the victim.